Well, playing with the throttle follower has helped, its still the worst decelerating(off the throttle) so after trying 10 different things I ended up back on the throttle cracker table and its been liking it when I add air in the 1000 and 1600 rpm rows. Then I came back and read the idle tuning tutorial again and laughed when I read this line...
"For light load, low RPM bucking, you can increase the multiplier to bump up the throttle follower airflow that is added. Remember, this is for surging while your foot is on the gas. If you have problems with surging off the throttle and believe it's airflow related, that's addressed in the throttle cracker tables"
Looks like the answer was right in front of me the whole time...guess it just didn't stick the first 3 times I read it :lol: